Lady Lydia likes boys whistling at her - Part II

Lady Lydia often deletes posts that are controversial. She might decide to delete her post on "Why boys don't whistle at girls anymore" once she realizes someone is talking about.
So the current link for this silly article is:
http://homeliving.blogspot.com/2006/06/why-dont-boys-whistle-at-girls-anymore.html

In this Lady Lydia, laments that boys don't whistle at girls anymore.

Some of Lydia's own Cortie of readers themselves have taken exception to her desire that boys should whistle at her.

Some of the comments for this article are:

Christian Feminist says:

A woman who desires to be whistled at is no lady. In my mind she is more likely a harlot. HOW DARE YOU criticize women who choose to dress according to modern fashion and don't wear the long, baggy, loose and shapeles things you call " feminine dress"? How dare you suggest that women invite assault and rape by the way they dress, and at the same time you regret men don't whistle after girls. If any woman invites rape, it's you with your twisted, perverse way of thinking. In my country, women are still whistled after. Everytime this happened to me I felt nothing but contempt for those pathethic men who used that way of gaining my attention. At the same time, I felt extremely unconfortable, like a piece of meat drooled after by hungry dogs. If you enjoy being whistled at, you enjoy tempting men to sin, you enjoy their lust. What a hypocrite you are, whit your rantings about modesty and femininity!

Mrs. W said...
I don't know about all this taking a whistle as a compliment, ma'am! I'm a young woman, and I and several girls have had to deal with foolish men honking at us or gawking like wolves at us as we go about our business, on the street or in other public places. Sometimes, the creeps have even slowed down their cars beside me and "flirted" with me as I tried to walk in peace. (I think they tend to be in groups when they do this.)
We don't take it as a compliment because it is overtly sexual and predatory in nature. I remember several times in high school having grown men make inappropriate comments about my young age and beauty as I walked home from school! It's like these men think they are in a rap video or something. How do they expect a respectable young lady to respond?
So no, I don't know if I've ever heard a man whistle at a woman, but it's generally regarded as a foolish woman who is flattered by the chosen "complimentary" behavior of men today.
I do understand, though, how wearing a skirt and *looking* like a girl begets more gentlemanly treatment from men. :) However, many will still gawk and shout "Hey!" or "pssst!" as if it's supposed to be appeal.

Anonymous said...
Mrs. W, I'm in between Mrs. Lydia and you, so I also remember the sleezebags that would drool over my friends and I (and worse), but I also remember as a child seeing men whistle at men, and it was mainly innocent; much like the songs of the period in which men didn't go into lurid details about body parts and the activities best suited for those parts, but simply sang about how wonderful girls were and how beautiful their smiles and eyes were. As a child I never felt like I was in the presence of something dirty when I saw a young man whistle at a young woman and I only heard happiness and excitement in the pop songs about beautiful girls.

Anonymous said...
As a young women (upon whom youth is wasted), I find whistling strangers patronising even when it is clearly meant as a compliment and remains good natured. The attention also makes me uncomfortable. However, if I knew the person whistling at me I would take the compliment. I think it's just a case of these days you can't be entirely sure of the intention of the whistler unless you know them personally. That's why I can't see the trend making a resurgance. In addition, a great deal of my male friends would never whistle at a girl because they too feel uncomfortable and as though they were being disrespectful to the girl. Call it what you will but that is how many in generation think.

Elizabeth said...
Perhaps I'm to young to understand this sort of whistling. I'm 29 years old and have been whistled at a few times. Of course, since I've had 3 kids it's been a while ... haha. But each of these times it was by men that just give you the creeps. You know the sort: the ones that, when your head snaps up with a jump, look at you like a t-bone steak. I certainly would like to know and see this sort of "good whistling" because I have never seen it that I can remember.

Lady Lydia likes guys whistling at her

Lady Lydia often deletes posts that are controversial. She might decide to delete her post on "Why boys don't whistle at girls anymore" once she realizes someone is talking about.

So the current link for this silly article is:

http://homeliving.blogspot.com/2006/06/why-dont-boys-whistle-at-girls-anymore.html

Lady Lydia on Why don't boys whistle at girls anymore:

Am I the only one that remembers a different America? One where the young people actually liked each other and the girls were good natured enough to appreciate the boys whistling at them? (Yeah! Girls love guys drooling and salivating over them like a piece of meat) Doesn't anyone remember the song that rose to the charts in the 50's called "Standing On the Corner, Watching All the Girls Go By?" (This is known as eve-teasing if Lydia didn't know the word existed - and is a punishable offense)
Even at Bible Camp (What kind of screwed up Bible camp did Lydia go to?), the young men would whistle at the group of girls walking ahead of them on a path. There was nothing sinister meant about it at all. (Lydia might find the molestation, ugly-name calling and sexual harassment that follows also not-sinister)
Why don't boys whistle at girls anymore? (Maybe they have been deterred by law-enforcement agencies) Maybe they never heard anyone do it. Maybe we skipped a generation, or something. The last time I ever heard of a man whistling at a young woman was in New York, when a young career woman walked past a construction site. Some of the workers whistled at her and one man yelled something like, "Hey, Beautiful!" The young woman sued them all in court for sexual harassment, and won. (Good for that young lady! And bad for Lydia who doesn't know what is acceptable in a secular world!)
It could be that women don't dress in a way that would make anyone want to whistle at them. Back then, they wore dresses and hats, and it was a pretty sight, quite different than the appearance of men. It would be a worrisome thing to do, today, I suppose, for fear of actually whistling at a man, who looked like a woman. And, how would men be able to tell, at a distance, if the girls were actually girls, by the way they dress, in their jeans and tee shirts and tennis shoes. (Doesn't Lady Lydia remind you of those super snobs who: "Deary, their dresses are so blah! Ugly! How could they ever wear something so ugh!")
I feel sorry for this generation of young people. They never saw a man whistle at a woman because he liked her. You understand, that they didn't whistle hypocritically. (Men whistle sincerely, affectionately, sexually, aggressively, but Oh! God! never hypocritically, according to our enjoyer of whistles Lydia) They never whistled at a woman unless they really approved of her, so if a woman got whistled at, it usually made her smile. (One is tempted to ask: Would Lydia's husband, her son or her father approve of strange men whistling at her?)
I propose that the next time a woman is out in public with her husband, that she make sure she wears a dress and a hat. Her husband should whistle at her and call her a beautiful doll. He should be as loud as he wants. After all, this is a free country, and there are a lot more hot words flying around besides "beautiful doll." His wife should then look back at him, under her hat, and give him a sweet smile. Then they should walk toward each other, meet, and pretend to exchange cell phone numbers. Maybe we could start a trend. (Next, Lady Lydia is advocating public exhibitionism and PDAs) I ran this thought past my son in law and his beautiful wife, (my daughter, of course) and they thought it would bring a smile--at least to them. Of course, if you are mean spirited like a lot of young women today, you could always sue your husband for whistling at you like the girl who walked past the construction workers, but you should make sure you have been frugal enough to save up a lot of money so he'll have plenty to give you. (Just shows Lydia family's just as addle-brained as she is....or maybe they were just politely listening to her lunatic suggestions)
Who or what took away some of the things in our lives, the little things, that made us feel like we had our own culture? What happened to our sayings and our gestures, that did no harm? They were not replaced by anything better. We got rid of the whistlers by intimidating them with threats of lawsuits. (Does Lydia even know what is respecting a woman's freedom and personal space? Is she this dumb always? Or is she pretending just for the sake of her whistling husband) I just don't understand it. I want my country back. (Lydia wants more sexual predators out there....the one's stalking women in the country are not enough....she wants more to join their ranks)
Don't know what in the world I am talking about? It is because you were born so late you missed it. You can rent some old movies maybe and see some scenes where they did it, and some new movies that depict life in the 1950's. Try "Beyond the Sea," or "Seven Brides for Seven Brothers." Even in the old flick, "It's a Wonderful Life," there is good-natured whistling.
Don't bother to flame me about this. You are just too young to understand. As they say, youth is wasted on the young. (Oh! And if you dare criticise Lydia, it just shows your too young to know your mind)