Showing posts with label Lady Lydia Speaks. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Lady Lydia Speaks. Show all posts

Monday, March 9, 2009

Lady Lydia on why she styles herself as a "Lady"


This article is one of those rare articles, in which Lady Lydia has permitted rude comments. Many a time this article gets deleted, but still if you search you might get it. Meanwhile, the current link to this article is here

Christian Feminist says:

It's Christian feminist again. I decided to write one last time because I was absolutely appaled by your post on boys not whistling after women anymore, which you regret so. Dear "lady" Lydia ( by the way, did you know that only the daughters of British earls, marquesses and dukes are entitled to use the title Lady before their name? 

something tells me you're no aristocrat, so why call yourself that? a craving for titles? how pathethic..

by the way, I'm a real aristocrat, with family tree dating back to the XIV century, and with ancestors who held high positions at princely courts since the XVIIth century, but I don't brag about that and I never use my title. In a democracy, titles are ridiculous ) 

A woman who desires to be whistled at is no lady. In my mind she is more likely a harlot. HOW DARE YOU criticize women who choose to dress according to modern fashion and don't wear the long, baggy, loose and shapeles things you call " feminine dress"? How dare you suggest that women invite assault and rape by the way they dress, and at the same time you regret men don't whistle after women anymore? If any woman invites rape, it's you with your twisted, perverse way of thinking. In my country, women are still whistled after. Everytime this happened to me I felt nothing but contempt for those pathethic men who used that way of gaining my attention. At the same time, I felt extremely unconfortable, like a piece of meat drooled after by hungry dogs. If you enjoy being whistled at, you enjoy tempting men to sin, you enjoy their lust. What a hypocrite you are, whit your rantings about modesty and femininity!

Lady Lydia Speaks:

Dear Romanian Lady,

Before Jennie Chancey and I formed the site "Ladies Against Feminism" (LAF), we and a number of other women belonged to an online group called "Victorian and Edwardian Ladies Society," where one of the practices was to prefix your name with the word "lady". 

We had Lady Jennie, Lady Susan, Lady Lydia, and lady this or that--everyone addressed themselves as lady, to indicate a more mannerly and genteel way of life that we were trying to import. This trend spread, and now I still see it on many of their blogs, where they sign their names with the word "lady." 

It just means lady -like and doesn't imply a title at all. There is no rule or law that says you must be royalty in order to have that word in front of your name. 

In past centuries, almost all women were addressed as ladies, and it didn't mean royalty. However,as many of us are Bible believers, we know that when we follow the teachings of Christ, we are daughters of the King, and can be princesses or ladies if we like. 

Perhaps you would rather I call myself "Princess" instead of "lady." It began as a tongue-in-cheek kind of joke, but the name stuck, and it goes so much better with Lydia.

You dont have to have official papers in order to use the word lady in front of your name. In the Victorian and Edwardian Ladies Society, we always used the word lady if we were members of that group. 

When we formed the site LAF Jennie wanted me to have a column there dealing with some subjects I had sometimes posted on the Victorian and Edwardian Ladies Society, and so she called it "Lady Lydia Speaks" and the name stuck.

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Exercise in publicity - Part III















At the Ladies Against Feminism site, I often tried to illustrate my points with pictures of the family. And not only the family but also the house, so that people got a hand-on-training on homemaking. This must not be construed as narcissim or self-publicity.

Exercise in Publicity - Part II






I loved featuring my daughter also in the Lady Lydia Speaks column and Lady Lydia's newsletter. I also encouraged my daughter to write articles and there was no question of rejected slips as I co-authored the site. Did I also tell you my daughter Lollybeth of The Unpleasant Times also wrote for a newspaper once? I use this as proof that women can stay at home and do whatever they can want - they can even be reporters. She wrote a column on etiquette. Since that column is no longer appearing, she re-hashes old articles for re-use on The Unpleasant Times.

Exercise in publicity - Part I











I predict this series might be really long. I love pictures of me in my pretty dresses. Getting publicity at the LAF site was easy, because I wrote the Lady Lydia Speaks column and send the Lady Lydia's newsletter to a select circle of friends. I was able to publish as many pictures of myself as my heart-desired! Ah, the virtues of having your own website and blog! Hope you enjoyed these pictures!